Change Your Perspective, Change Your Reality

In this episode of Mind Your Own Beeswax, I dive into a simple but powerful question that completely shifted my perspective:

“If everyone in the world wrote down their problems and put them in a hat, would you risk grabbing one, or keep yours?”

What started as a casual Instagram reel quickly turned into a deep conversation about gratitude, mindset, comparison, and why so many of the things we complain about are actually privileges we once dreamed of having.

I share a very real story about a day where I felt completely overwhelmed, only to realise that every single thing upsetting me was actually something I was incredibly lucky to have.

This episode is your reminder to pause, zoom out, and recognise just how much abundance already exists in your life.

I also chat about:

• Why perspective is everything when life feels overwhelming
• How social media fuels comparison and dissatisfaction
• Why comparison is the thief of joy
• Why we constantly adapt and create new problems at every level of success
• The connection between gratitude and the law of attraction
• Lessons from The Untethered Soul and The Let Them Theory
• Oprah Winfrey quotes about abundance and appreciation
• How focusing on what you do have can completely change your energy, mindset, and happiness

If you’ve been feeling stressed, frustrated, stuck, or caught in the cycle of “I’ll be happy when…”, this episode will help you reframe your thinking and reconnect with gratitude for the life you already have.

Because sometimes the things driving us crazy today are the exact things we once prayed for.

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Transcript

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Mind your own beeswax.

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Hello, hello.

Intro

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Welcome back to another episode of Mind Your Own Beeswax. My name is Grace, your hostess with the Mostess. How are your vibes today? I feel like May, June, I don't know where we are in the year. It's flying by, and I'm really excited because I've started to prepare my 50% of the way through goals update episode, which July will be here before we know it. It is such a beautiful day here in Brisbane. It's nice and cool. Like winter is certainly on the way. But I love winter in Brisbane because it's such a beautiful blue sky. Like it's a cold day, but the sky is blue, the sun is out. And it's so good because once you're really cold, you can just like go out in the sun and have a little sunbake. And quite often me and the dogs will just like go sit in the sun for five minutes and kind of like charge up for the day. And let me tell you, it is glorious. There ain't nothing like a little lunchtime sunbake to recharge the batteries, fire you up for the rest of the day. So this is your reminder. Go get some sun. I actually had a ice latte in the sun this morning, again with the dogs. We love it. Me and the girls love having a little coffee in the sun. So get out there, get some sunshine, get some vitamin D. It's bloody good for you. I tell you what though, we are not here to talk about sunshine today. I have, can I say a highly requested episode if one person has requested me to do this? I don't know, but let's say that a highly requested episode. One of my friends sent me a reel recently on Instagram and he was like, Grace, you've got to do an episode on this. And I was like, you know what, in my delusional state, the fans are requesting me to do this content, so I'ma do it. But it really got me thinking, and I think it's a great concept. So let me put this question

The ultimate question

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to you that was in the reel. If everyone in the world wrote down their problems and put them in a hat, would you risk grabbing one or keep yours? Isn't that a great question? Let me read it again. If everyone in the world wrote down their problems and put them in a hat, would you risk grabbing one or keep yours? When I read this, I'm like, no way. Absolutely no way. I just have no problems. Like when you think about the bigger picture, I ain't got no problems. There's war, there's people suffering, there's people in hospitals right now. I feel like at this time of recording, I've just heard about that poor NRL footy player that's been diagnosed with mode and neurone disease. Like, you hear shit like that and you're like, I have got no worries. And back to the question, I really think like I'm so grateful for the problems that I have in my life because there ain't no way I'm swapping them for someone else's. I loved this question and I think it is such an incredible thought starter. And that's what I wanted to leave you the message today in this episode is that when we can view our

Turn your problems into a blessing

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problems as an actual privilege in our life, that is just the ultimate shift in perspective. And it makes you realize how privileged you are, and it helps you feel genuine gratitude. Now, I want to give an example of this, and this is why I love doing this mindset self-help work because when you go through a tough time, you can have perspective and it can make you feel grateful, or it can make you realize that things are not that bad. So, my example

How I changed my perspective on a bad day

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is I think it was a couple of years ago, I was just having a bad day, a bad week, whatever you want to call it. So I think the day, I think it was a Thursday, and I'd woken up and I'd slept funny and I'd like pinched my neck. And if you've ever pinched your neck, it's fucking horrible. It like shoots up into your head. You know, every like time you turn to the side, it like is stabbing pain, and you're like, oh my god, and you keep forgetting, and you turn your head, and it's just like feels like your head's gonna roll off your shoulders. I woke up with that. I think I'd been highly stressed at work that week. We were also doing renovations to our house. We were putting a patio on at the time, so we had builders at the house. Um, it was just stressful. There was lots of things happening. And on this particular day, I had booked my car in for a service and I had to go work at the office. So again, first world problems, but I was like, fuck my neck sore. I'm stressed about these renovations. I've got to take my dogs to someone's house so that my dogs can be safe because I couldn't leave them at home with the builders. I had to take them somewhere, then I've got to go get my car service, and then I've got to get to the office, go to work, and then like do it all the reverse that day. And I just was like feeling overwhelmed, just not having it. I got to the car dealership and I'm driving in the driveway to drop my car off to be serviced, and I get a text message from the car dealership and it says, Hey Grace, can't wait to see you tomorrow for your car service. And I was in the driveway, I was like, fuck me, dead man, like I'm here on the wrong day. This is bullshit. And sometimes I believe that when you get into that negative mindset, you manifest or attract more shit into your life. And I think that's what had happened is I was just so blindsided and feeling so sorry for myself. Maybe I'd got my wives confused and attracted this wrong car service. It just, it was a shit show. And so I rocked up and credit to the car dealership. They were like, No worries, we can fit you in today. All good. So I go into the reception, I sit down with like, I don't know, the person at the dealership, and they're like, This is what we're doing to your car. You're good. Here's the amount. And I was like, Yeah, yeah. And I said, I'm I'm here on the wrong day. Do you still have a courtesy car for me? Because I've got to go to work. And the chick was like, No, I'm sorry, like you're here on the wrong day. We had a car for you tomorrow. There's no car. We have a courtesy bus that can take you to the shopping center. And I was like, ugh. And I just like burst out crying. I was like, fucking hell, like I'm just feeling overwhelmed. Like, this is just annoying. I've got to get to work soon. I'm gonna be late. And I just burst out crying. And God bless this chick at the car dealership. She's like, don't worry about it. I'm getting you an Uber now. Give me your worker address. I'll get you to work and then we'll Uber you back later. And that was so kind of her. And I'm very, very thankful to this chick for doing that. So I'm standing out on the main road, waiting for my Uber, and I start crying again because I don't know, I'm just an emotional girly. I cry a lot. I was feeling sorry for myself. I get into the Uber and I'm still upset. And I'm in the Uber on my way to work. I'm like, Grace, come on, pull it together. Like, you've got to stop crying. Let's move on. So I thought to myself, okay, let's write down a list of all my issues right now. Everything that's making me upset, everything that's triggering me. Let's just write it down. Maybe it'll give me perspective. Maybe there's some things I can do. Let's write it down. I opened up the notes in my phone and I started making a list. And I wrote down builders at house, dogs not at home, hopefully my dogs are okay, car service on the wrong day, gotta go to work, like feeling stressed at work, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I read this list back and I was like, are you for real, Grace? I read it and I was like, hang on. You're upset because you're getting renovations done to your house. That's a big goal this year. You're putting on a patio. Having a patio is going to give you an incredible space in your home to entertain people. It's an extra space. How privileged you are to be able to afford to do that. How privileged you are to be able to have a home. Then I thought about the dogs, like how grateful I am to have my dogs, period. How grateful I am that they're healthy, how grateful I am that I have someone that can look after them for me when I go to work. How grateful I am to have a car. How grateful I am to that chick at the car dealership that got me an Uber. Like when I reflected, I was like, goddamn, all of these problems that are pissing me the fuck off right now are actually really privileged things and they are all happening for a good reason. You know, even going to work, I was like, oh, I've got to go to work. I've got to go to work to earn money. I get paid to be at work. I have so many great friends at work. Like, I love my job. Like, calm down, Grace. Like, it just really showed me that when I was at the height of my emotions, feeling sorry for myself, suffering, I guess, when I wrote down all of the things that were upsetting me, I realized, hang on. Everything that I'm frustrated by right now is such a privilege, and I'm so thankful for. And if I think back to like years and years ago, like those are the things that I'd hoped and prayed for. I'd hoped and prayed for a beautiful home. I'd hoped and prayed for beautiful dogs, for a great job, for a nice car. Like, those are all the things that younger me would have killed for, and now they are my biggest problems. Like, what do you mean?

Perspective is key

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How incredible is perspective? And back to the question, when you think about your problems now, can you write down a list of things that are pissing you off right now? Have you got a situation at your work? Have you got a person in your family? Have you got a neighbor that's pissing you off? Like, what are the things that are on your mind right now? I think about myself right now and I keep waking up. My dogs keep waking me up at 3 a.m. and I lay awake and my brain is just like running a million miles an hour and I'm thinking, thinking, thinking, thinking, thinking about all those things. Is that you? Like, what are you thinking about right now? What are the things that are frustrating you? What are the problems in your life? Write them down. And I guarantee you that when you see them on a piece of paper, you're gonna go, hot damn, I ain't got no worries. I feel like I do also need to add that if you are listening to this and you are genuinely suffering and going through really, really serious issues, I do want to acknowledge that I'm very much in this episode talking about first world problems. And if you're experiencing first world problems, what a privilege that is. But if you're experiencing serious problems, reach out to someone, seek help wherever in the world you are right now. I think another branch to this kind of topic is that we really romanticize the lives of other people. And I love the quote, and me and my partner say this all the time: comparison is the thief of joy. And we as a society are so guilty of this, and I think social media and seeing the highlight reel of other people's lives, it really adds to our own suffering and frustration because you're like, well, why don't I look like that person? Why don't I feel like that person? And you're really focusing on the things that you don't have that these other people have. But when you really think about it, maybe that person that you're looking at on Instagram that's super successful or they're a business owner and you really admire them, you don't know the struggles that they have. Maybe they are in debt. Maybe all those things that you're seeing are all on loan and they're paying them off and it's not genuine. Maybe that person you see that's in the perfect relationship and you feel envious of maybe they're actually really unhappy. Maybe they have lost their independence. Maybe that fit person that's got the ultimate dream body you follow on Instagram, maybe they actually are really obsessed with how they look and it's super unhealthy and they could have disordered eating. You don't know. You can never look at the highlight reel of someone's life and not know what they've got going on. Also, those people could have serious problems, like maybe they have a family member that's really unwell, maybe they have mental health issues, maybe they have a chronic disease that you don't see online. You never know. And remember, comparison is the thief of joy. Stop comparing yourself to other people. You don't know the problems that they have. And maybe the problems that you have and the lack that you have in your life, that person that you're jealous of would kill to be in your position. Quite often when we're lacking and we're focusing on these things that we don't have, there's a really crazy concept I've heard that human beings adapt to everything. So people think that a new job, weight loss, a new relationship, more money, that's gonna be the answer to their problems. But as humans, we adapt so quickly that every new level within our life is just gonna unlock more problems. When you make more money, you're gonna have more responsibility. When you're more visible at work and your career's taking off, that's gonna open you up to more pressure, to more criticism. If you want more freedom in your life and you get that freedom, it means you're gonna have to make harder decisions because you've got that freedom. What are you gonna do with your time? You've got a lot to fill that space with. When you get new things or more things, it comes with more problems. Yes, they are good privilege problems, but they are always going to be there. Unfortunately, as humans, that's just the way we are. But the key message that if I can give you from this episode is that when you can see your problems as privileges, that's where the magic happens. So if you're stressed at work and you feel like you've really, really just drained from your job, what a privilege it is to have a job. What a privilege it is to earn money. What a privilege it is to be given opportunity. Plenty of people in the world would kill for a job that are unemployed. Maybe yourself five, ten years ago would have killed to have that job that you've got now. If you're stressed about your health and fitness goals and frustrated about having to go to the gym and cook healthy meals, what a privilege it is to have a body that works, to be able to physically go to the gym, to be able to have the skills to cook healthy meals, to be able to afford the food to eat and nourish your body. If you're tired from parenting, what a privilege it is to have children to love. There's so many ways that you can look and change your perspective and really understand that those problems, those things that you think about that frustrate you are privileges in your life. I want to share a quote from my girl Oprah, and she says, if you look at what you have in life, you will always have more. If you look at what you don't have in life, you will never have enough. And isn't that so true? When you think about what you have, you will always have more. And I think about this in terms of gratitude. So if you say, write a gratitude list right now and just think about where you are. So I'm just sitting in my office right now. I am so grateful for this microphone to speak into. I'm so grateful for my laptop. I'm so grateful for the internet that allows me to connect with you guys. I'm so grateful for my desk. I'm so grateful for the heater. I'm so grateful for the windows to let the light in. When you look around, there is so much to be grateful for. And when you're able to think that way, it's unlimited. Like you can just think about so many things. Like I'm grateful for this cup on my desk, for my lip balm, for the walls, for the roof that protects me from the weather, for this mirror I have so I can see myself. I'm grateful for the jeans that I'm wearing that make me feel great. I'm grateful for the jewelry that I'm wearing that's so special to me. I'm grateful for the carpet that feels nice under my feet. It's unlimited. When you focus on what you have, there is so much and you will always be able to find more. But when you think about and focus on the things that you don't have, you'll never have enough. When you're thinking, oh, if I could just have that job, if I could just get my new car, if I could just go on a holiday, if I could just buy this house, if I could just earn an extra couple of hundred dollars each week, if I could just do whatever, you'll always be lacking. And don't you want to feel like you have enough? Don't you want to feel good? Focus on what you've got right now, and you will truly feel abundant. If you follow me on social media, you will know that I'm currently reading the book The Untethered Soul, which is an incredible book. And I shared an episode recently that if you've read the book The Let Them Theory Mel Robbins, I highly recommend reading The Untethered Soul because I think it really builds on the Let Them Theory. And if you want to take that let them perspective to the next level, definitely read The Untethered Soul. But the chapter I've just read in this book talks about how when you have this vision for a dream life, the way that it impacts you. Now I'm somebody that I have a very clear vision of what I want in life. Like I do this visualization of my dream life. I know where I live, I know what I do, I know what I eat, I know what I do for work, like I have it like fully planned out from like morning to evening. Like I've got such a clear vision of that dream life. But the untethered soul talks about that when you have that a high expectation, those big dreams, you're gonna feel feelings of frustration and anger. And I think sometimes, yeah, I do feel those things, but I didn't previously understand why. But it's because I have this like goal and this dream that is very specific that every time things happen in life that don't align exactly to those goals, I'm like, well, fuck my life. Like, oh, I'm not a millionaire, oh, I'm not driving a Mercedes, like anything that like happens in not alignment with that goal, it's frustrating. And I never had that perspective. But to bring it back to the quote from Oprah, it's because I was focusing on this dream life, I didn't have that yet. And so I was focusing on the lack thereof. If you look at what you don't have

Perspective on what you do or don't have

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in life, you will never have enough. So focus on what you do have and you will feel abundant. And that's when the law of attraction comes in because we know like attracts like. So if you focus on the money you have, you focus on all the great things you have in your home, you focus on all the people in your life right now, you will see that you have so many good things and you will therefore attract more of that into your life. When you focus and you're grateful for what you've got, watch more of that flow to you. Because if you're not focusing on it and you're just thinking about what I don't have, you will never have enough. You will always be without. You will always be lacking. I hope you loved this episode. If you couldn't tell, this is something I'm very passionate about. I'm really, really passionate about practicing gratitude, the law of attraction, and just doing this kind of work so that when you have those moments of emotion, of frustration, you've got that mindset to go, actually, here's a fresh perspective, or actually, these problems right now are such a privilege. And when you can change your mind like that, my friends, it is an absolute game changer. You're gonna level up and your life is going to become amazing. And when you live in that space of abundance and of gratitude, the law of attraction, like attracts like, good things are gonna come your way, money's gonna come your way, people are gonna just be attracted to you. They're gonna go, wow, why is that person so happy, so fulfilled? Watch all the good things come your way. If you've made it this far into this episode, thank you so much. I'm so thankful that you have hit play on this episode. If you can leave me a comment, I would love to hear from you. Have you got any feedback? Have you got any thoughts? Was there anything that stood out to you that you liked or you didn't like? Leave it in a comment on this episode. Give me a follow on Instagram, give me a follow on TikTok. Thank you so much for supporting me. And at this time of recording, I've hit 500 downloads. Woohoo! Halfway to a thousand. The fact that 500 people have listened to what I have to say blows my mind. So thank you for being here with me. As always, I record these episodes with the intention that it will find you at the time that you need it the most. So whether you're listening to this in June 2026 or in 2028, 2029, in the future sometime, I trust that this will find you at a time that you need it the most, and this message will reach you when you need to hear it. As always, love you. Bye.

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